“A TRUE CHAMPION” – Teaching Your Child and Yourself About “HAPPINESS”

Eli Tomac (World Class Motocross Champion) and John Tomac   (Photograph obtained from DirtRider.com)
Eli Tomac (World Class Motocross Champion) and John Tomac (Photograph obtained from DirtRider.com)


In the amazing movie, “MOTO4” John Tomac, Eli Tomac’s Father, quoted:

“You just have to give these guys time to develop, and I have always been patient with him and that has kind of been one of my key factors in development…is just taking my time and being patient and just letting him develop at his own pace.”

Our son just began racing motocross this year… and it has been one of the most amazing and challenging journeys we have ever undertaken…in ways I never even realized to be possible!!!

Today, I truly want to thank John Tomac for the words he said with sincerity in “MOTO4”. I first heard these words when our son first started racing, and they cross my mind almost daily since–each time changing the way I think, feel, and interact with our children — ultimately improving the quality of each moment!

The journey of all athletics has many peaks and valleys, joy and sorrow, financial and emotional strain, health, endurance and victory!

ūüíęYet, at times the sadness in your child’s face when they don’t get the results they desire brings tears to your eyes.

ūüíęAnd, the defeat, anger, and sadness you feel as a parent when your child doesn’t get the results YOU want them to accomplish… Whether it was them not performing at our expectations or some other factor.

But really what results are we expecting?? Merely to WIN the RACE? To be the “TRUE CHAMPION”?

Does “WINNING the RACE” bring everlasting happiness?

Does “TAKING LAST” bring everlasting happiness?

Or could it be that a component of BOTH… that the entire spectrum could bring “True Happiness”?

YES… in any sport or challenge in life, a component of the ENTIRE SPECTRUM can bring “TRUE HAPPINESS”–each teaching us new lessons of life!

So, Why am I writing this today???

As a reminder to myself about the importance of “True Happiness!”… About the journey of life!…and my children’s life!

Yes, it is important to WIN, but it is equally or more important to ENJOY the Process of getting to WINNING!

Several months ago, after hearing John Tomac’s words over and over again in my head as my child practiced and raced, I remembered and was reminded of something so important.

“Through each experience, I get to enjoy the journey of learning to be a champion…not just the end result. Each day, I get to learn to be a better person and to truly enjoy life in a different way. To learn from mistakes and make changes. To realize the true innocence of my children and how WE are here to teach them about life through our actions and words. I remembered again that we are not only here to foster the growth of a motocross champion, but also, the growth and development of a “HAPPY CHILD”! Realizing that EACH child is UNIQUE and AMAZING in their own way… Knowing the importance of frequent adaptions to reach the individual needs of each child. Finally, for EVERY moment, ENJOY where you are — exactly as you are, and as your child is! — and grow from there! Be mindful of YOUR starting point and go from there!! Always being mindful of STRENGTHS and POSITIVE QUALITIES!!!! “

So, it was in much silence and thought this past weekend at the Gold Cup Race in California, that I really reflected on how grateful I was to have heard John Tomac’s words…

“…just letting him develop at his own pace”

It was when we really started letting our son develop at his own pace, that our experience as a family changed!!

Really, how COOL is it to support yourself and your child at the pace that is intended at that exact moment in time!!! To learn and grow from the entire spectrum of experiences!! To ENJOY the Journey!

Don’t Blink… You may miss one of the most amazing times of your life!!!

As I drove for 10 hours, home from the race, I listened to amazing music and to “TED Talks”.

I was absolutely amazed of the timing when I heard David Steindl-Rast, “Want To Be Happy? Be Grateful”.

I listened to it over and over again… each time realizing something more!

So, it is with this that I hope you continue to find “True Happiness” in your life!
Even just as important, to teach your children by example the importance of “HAPPINESS”…and then I can assure you a “TRUE CHAMPION” will be Born!!

With Much Love and Light! Brittany

“Be a good teacher, be a good parent, and be a good role model to your children if you want to teach them good things.”–Paramahamsa Hariharananda

Many blessings to John Tomac, Eli Tomac, Dirt Rider, Moto4, David Steindl-Rast, TED Talks, Parmahamsa Hariharananda, to all associated with each, to all the children of this world, to all the adults of the world, to all, and to YOU!

Ripple Effect

Mother Teresa… a drop in the ocean
photograph obtained from: http://www.thequietman.org/images/mothertheresa.jpg

“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. ¬†But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.” ¬†-Mother Teresa

Have you ever heard of the “RIPPLE EFFECT?”

Wikipedia defines it as, “A situation where, like the ever-expanding ripples across water when an object is dropped into it, an effect from an initial state can be followed outwards incrementally.”

When you become aware of how the “Ripple Effect” works, suddenly you start to notice it everywhere. ¬†When you become aware, you notice even more, and even more. ¬†I want to share a story that transpired in a very short duration of time that clearly demonstrates the “Ripple Effect.” ¬† We are just like a drop of water in the ocean creating ripples throughout the world. ¬†What type of ripple are you spreading?

Standing in the change line at an arcade, I overheard a conversation between siblings and their mother. ¬†The likely oldest, gently replied, “I know I will get less coins, but it is OK.” ¬† The topic of conversation slowly changed. ¬†The young boy, seemed so humble and kind and was content with his situation.

As soon as I obtained my change, a sudden feeling came across me. ¬†I thought to myself, “Should I say something, or just go on my way?”

I decided to tell this young boy my thoughts, as his demeanor in this situation really impressed me.

I quickly, turned toward the young boy and started a short conversation.

“You know, the Universe is an amazing place. ¬†What I have seen in life is that everything seems to balance out, kind of equalizes. ¬†You are such a kind boy, I’m sure very good things will come to you in your life.”

With love in my heart, I handed him $1 and he seemed very appreciative.  We both walked away.

We went about our business, having a blast, and spending all of our change on arcade games.

I was absolutely dying of thirst and only had $1 left (water cost $2).

I asked my son if he could go find my husband to get another dollar.  Within a flash of time, a young lady hands me $1.  I was shocked, amazed and very thankful.

Just at the same time, my daughter came to me crying.  She was crying because she was unable to earn enough points to buy a special toy that she had her eye on.

My heart broke in half as she rarely cries for something like this.  She is usually very upbeat and extremely appreciative of everything in her life.   She quickly calmed down but remained very sad when she realized that there was nothing else we could do to get more points, specifically because we were out of cash.

We approached the booth to turn in her small amount of points and to redeem a toy, but not the toy she had her eyes on.

Suddenly, the young boy noticed the situation that was going on with my daughter.  To my amazement, he walked over to her and handed her his receipt with all of his points.  His receipt had much more value than the $1 I had given him earlier.  With this gift, my daughter was able to get the toy she valued due to the genuine kindness of this young boy.

As we walked out of the arcade, I notice that my daughter had a green hair clip in her hair. ¬†I asked her, “Where did you get that from?” ¬†Can you guess? ¬†The young boy had given it to her as well!

As I reflected on these events, I clearly realized the true essence of the “Ripple Effect.” ¬†It happens everyday, everywhere. ¬†We are connected in ways we probably will never understand, but the connections are there.

I know for a fact, the more one gives (with genuine sincerity) the more the Universe gives back. ¬†The bigger the outward flow, the ¬†bigger the”Ripple Effect” transcending time to exactly where it is needed most. ¬†Sometimes the energy goes to someone else in need and sometimes the energy comes directly back to us. ¬†The timing we never know.

You see, this is how we are interconnected. ¬†We need each other. ¬†The magic about the “Ripple Effect” is that we never know who will receive the energy produced by the ripple, but the Universe knows exactly where the energy needs to go! ¬†Always remember, that the effect must be started by us, then let to magic happen!

Start a “Ripple Effect” today!

You Keep Going

As Long as It Benefits Even One…
Photograph obtained from Diamond Way Buddhism in Canada

Posted on Facebook the day I started my blog page, I read…

“You keep going. ¬†That is the bodhisattva’s way. ¬†As long as it benefits even one being you have to, without any sense of discouragement, go on.” — The 16th Gyalwa Karma

This blog is a dedicated to all those who have made a difference in my life.  Thank you for believing in me and not giving up on me when I was unable to go forward on my own.  You believed in me and you showed me the path.  Now, it is with greatest hopes that I can help at least one person.  If this project helps one person, it has been worth every single minute I have dedicated to this cause.

We are like a web of life, interconnected in ways we know and have no way of knowing.  For just one act of goodness towards another trickles exponentially throughout the Universe.

Addendum: The original photograph that I saw on Facebook was different, but with the same words.  As I wrote this post I was unable to find the photograph that I initially viewed.  To whoever posted it, thank you with all my heart for posting it at the exact time that made a difference in my life.  One post, one person, one action has the potential to change to trajectory of another persons life.